Recently a number of my female friends have commented that they wish they knew guys they had dated where the way the were before dating them. Well I am no expert at recognizing who I should or should not ask out in women I don't find it hard to pick out those of my own gender that are going to turn out to be jerks to women. For that reason I am going to list a few of the warning signs give aways or what ever you want to call it women should watch out for.
1. Take a look at how he treats his mother and/or sisters. There is no way he will treat you any better.
2. Listen to how he speaks of his ex's. For some to have been good relationships and some bad is normal. If they were all monsters the problem likely isn't them but him.
3. Some of his relationships should have ended with them now friends. If he is a decent guy he won't mind you asking someone he has dated in the past about him.
4. Watch his manners, is he only trying to impress you or is he really well mannered. For example does he open doors for women in general and pay special attention to those who would not be potential dates for him such as elderly women.
3. See how he is around kids and animals. They are generally better judges of character then we are as adults.
4.Pay attention to how others who know him react to him. Is he respected, admired, thought well of. Are people automatically polite to him and he to them. Do people seek his opinions or dismiss them.
5. Does he speak ill of others. Decent men generally don't have bad things to say about others and when the don't think well of someone generally keep it to themselves unless specifically asked.
6. Does he treat you politely and with respect.
7. Watch his driving. Is he a considerate driver or does he let rage and anger out in his driving. It may seem a simple thing it shows if he really is patient or angry deep down.
8. Does he treat you as a respected equal or as a possession?
I will edit this and add others over time however this last piece of advice applies to people of both genders.
Never go out with anyone your Grandparents would not approve of.
Indeed Sid, those are very paractical tips. It just happen that most of the time people are prone to let their heart dominates their mind. When you love someone, emotions takes over logic.
ReplyDeleteBut then we always learn our lesson and caution ourselves not to fall into the same trap.
However success is nil, hahaha.
I will most likely peek in this article once in a while to check if I encounter such character.
Smile...!
Sid my grandparents are slightly racist....and really old fashioned. I can't take many around them.....
ReplyDeleteI dated that guy from the picture by the way.
I like # 2 and 3. Although if he talks a little tooooo much about his ex's, then he's still hung up on one of them, or unable to move on.